Posts Tagged ‘worklife balance’

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In my infinite wisdom, and my increased hatred of glasses, I decided to move over to contact lenses a few weeks ago.

Since having Monster 18 months ago, I found that my sight has not only got worse, but as a result, I am more dependant upon my glasses, which give me a headache. The prescription is fine, what causes my discomfort are the frames, I don’t like anything on my face.

I had great delight in explaining to the optometrist that up until that point my use of contact lenses was strictly limited to Comicon (i.e. novelty lenses), so I had some experience of them, but not with daily use. Well it didn’t take long to realise that daily contact lenses come with their disadvantages.

Following the trials, I chose to go with monthly contacts instead of dailies, mainly due to the cost. I know I’m tight with money but that’s me.

With monthly contacts you receive 3 pairs just in case of accidents, they clearly had someone like me in mind when designing them, because in the first week I lost one on the train (it is probably still travelling to or from the city right now), I then broke another, luckily it was the opposing eye, then another one was damaged, I lost another one, again the opposing eye, the contact just jumped out while I was walking around my office, this left me with just one pair. I decided to stop using the plastic tweezers, and resided myself to the fact that I had to be careful for the rest of the month.

On that note, I purchased an awesome combined contact lens and glasses case, it has everything you need, albeit a little heavy, but works like a charm.

The contact drama was the week leading up to our break away in Sherwood Forest. It was to be a well deserved getaway as Jack and I were running on reserve fuel, what with full time work, marathon training, I was about to release another book, and of course Monster rearing. Jack was clearly feeling fatigued as well as while I was trying to negotiate my swim kit one morning, as it was fighting back, as well as the contact lenses that did not want to go in,  Jack returned home twice to pick up the items he had forgotten, luckily none of them were Monster, and the I had to call him back for a third time as I had left my purse and train ticket in Monster’s bag.

I keep telling Monster they are doomed.

More details on Sherwood Forest to come…

This post unfortunately comes in the wake of the 21 year old banking apprentice who died from working all-nighters.

I have always been a workoholic, for more years than I can remember. I have stayed at the office late, developed a very fruitful career which I thought was acknowledged.

However, I was head-hunted, I was content in the job I had prior but this one boasted a package that could not be beat. The payrise was initially in double figures, it was closer to the train station, the hours were shorter (or so I thought), there was more progression….. Until I got in through the front door.

Oh how things were very different.

I didn’t clock on to this at first but the management kept referring to “work-life balance” and “we want people to have lives….”.

Ok what is that supposed to mean?

Well 2 months in I realised.

Evenings were gone, weekends were gone, friends and family never saw me, and as for the ventures I was involved in I might as well not bother. As for swimming, it was a struggle to do anything active when you are barely eating or sleeping.

The pounds dropped off and so did the muscle that I needed for open water swims, darker circles grew around my eyes, my sleep was invaded by work queries and so on.

Basically there is only so much the human body can take and I had done this for too many years now. I valued the life I had made.

So what have I taken away from this?

Well nowadays there isn’t much reward in working all hours God sends, you just get more work because you are reliable.

I love my life, and now that I don’t have one I miss it even more.

My aim was always the 100k before retirement – I was on scope to achieve it in a few years, but now my priorities have changed, after all I could get run over by a bus tomorrow.

But I have never backed away from a challenge, and where there may seem to be a problem, there is normally a solution.

On a more positive note, I became engaged this year, and to my surprise (and a little shock) I actually really like it!

From the industry I work in, if you are an ambitious woman you can expect your private life, namely your marriage to fail at some point. Now this isn’t always the case but very often at events I was surrounded by women who were top of their game, but they were also divorced. Sure enough they managed to gain the house and the kids but they also had to maintain the career as well. I didn’t want this life, and having parents, aunts and uncles who were also divorced, this left me very unsettled to the prospect of marriage.

Also I saw so many hypocritical people getting married for the novelty rather than the actual meaning behind it, I didn’t want to be one of them either.

However these fears were completely eradicated when my partner asked me. I actually got enthusiastic at the prospect of my wedding, and I don’t even like weddings, it was like I had completely changed.

While our day will be informal and only include the minimum spectators (i.e. Close family and 1 or 2 friends), it will be completely what we want, 50\50. More posts to come on this I’m sure.

So what can I let you take away from this? Well one positive thing, one negative and one that is middle of the road – I suppose that is not bad. The aim in the next few months is to get all of the bubbles aligned.

Wish me luck!

For me Saturday 15 December 2012 was a sad day. I received a text from Dan who is one of the guitar players of the band White Valentine (the band I manage, or as you will find out in a minute, used to manage), asking me to call him – so I did. He informed me that the band had decided to split up. I don’t know what my first reaction was, to be honest I didn’t really know how to react.

The short version of the reasoning behind this decision was to do with work, he had been offered a great opportunity which he could not turn down. All I could do was congratulate him and offer my support which the guys know they have and will have until my dying day.

I said to him at the time that being sensible sucks but we can’t escape reality. If a person has a household, and even if they don’t everyone still has bills to pay. In an uncertain climate that is even more of a priority, which of course leaves your dreams to be put to the back of the wardrobe with all of your other unused items, until another day – and hopefully that day will come before you reach 65.

But this is sounding too morbid, the boys have had some wonderful achievements and are set to have many more in life. As White Valentine they secured their place in the rock, punk and progressive metal scene, all who have listened to their music have given positive feedback and they have personalities that will leave you in stitches at times. Their aim was to bring something different to the table, and I believed this from the first moment I heard their music.

Here are some examples…..

…..and many more

Even though I have lots of things to keep me out of mischief, for example Rogue Run 2013 will soon be upon us, even sooner Lotus Magma “Off the Cuff” is set to reach its 1,000,000th hit, a new book is to be released and we have some wicked websites on board, I do honestly feel that I am missing something, there is a void.

Its not completely the end yet, the guys have a final gig to play – details of which will be posted shortly. I can only hope that one day the boys might reconsider and start back up again. In the meantime I have kept the website active, so please take a look and listen to some of their tracks by clicking the link below, and when you listen to their songs, please show some appreciation by posting on their Facebook page (this can also be accessed through the website).